My how the years come and go so quickly!? Have you had the feeling after an outing with family, friends or yourself that this was the Best Day Ever (BDE)!? As one day turns into a week, a week into a month and a month into a year, these days become memories. They hide out in the deep recesses of your mind. You know it was a good day, but… After having one of these kinds of days it occurred to me to keep a BDE list so they wouldn’t get lost in recesses of my mind. I want to be able to recall on them when I need inspiration or a new focal point. One’s life is a piece of fabric and our experiences are the embroidery. There are no 2 pieces. Each year you get a new piece of fabric.
Life is broken down into threads and stitches. You have your favorite colors & stitches. You might have 1, 2, 3, 4 or more threads or stitches. There are no rules. The 1st thread is used for the compilation of days that are unique to each and every one of us. Those are the days that make you You. Birthdays, anniversaries, graduations, vacations, milestone, anything that is an important event’s in one’s life. These form the major images in your embroidery of life. Then there are the global ones that we all share with each other, religious, national and hallmark holiday. Now, just because these are special days in our year, it doesn’t make it a BDE. We’ve all had disappointments on these days that too becomes part of the embroidery. Then there are the Best Days Ever. These can be the unique days, the global days, or days that surprise you when your joy is emanating off your skin like steam rising from hot spring.
I keep a gratitude / affirmation / prayer journal and write 5 of each every day. In a few moments, I reset my mood, get a boost of positive energy & am focused for the day. After my morning writing on Saturday, Sept 2, 2017, I woke up, thinking of the day before, my unique day that I share with millions of people, my birthday. It was a BDE experience. I was with my husband, Joel Perlman, & dear friends, Lisa Fane and Maggie Lally. We went to Coney Island. It wasn’t the one thing that we did as much as the joy and laughter that we did it with. As I am in the latter half of my life, I am thrilled to access untainted childlike joy from simple pleasures. We laughed! We rode rides that made us scream. We ate yummy Mexican street food from Dona Zita. We got to the boardwalk as the fireworks started. Coney Island puts on a goooood fireworks show. It dawned on me that during the year I lose the details of a BDE.
So what made this night a BDE experience? It isn’t the what, but the how. It’s the excitement, joy and love that I felt during and after the night. There isn’t a recipe for BDEs. They are an organic event. My father, Bill Krivit, was a wise man. He would say you’re lucky if you can count your good friends on 1 hand. I’m going to reframe that and say you’re lucky if you can count on 1 hand your BDEs each year. My year started on my birthday Sept. 1st. When will yours start? Keep a list of your Best Days Ever. When you need some inspiration take it out and meditate on the experience.